Essay 1 Pre-Write

I will start out by saying that both essays have valid points. But I'm choosing to write about Deborah Tannen's essay There is No Unmarked Woman". I decided to write about this essay because it's the easiest to write about. Ha-ha, I'm just kidding. Seriously, she makes remarks about the women at the conference and their appearance. I felt that as I read I started to agree with what she had to say. Women and men are looked at differently in the world by both sexes. 

Why is it that no matter how we appear we are judged daily on it by others in the work place? Everywhere we go people judge us as if we are on trial or something. Tannen judges the women and men at the conference and she goes into a well thought out process of how we are judged differently.

Tannen says it's we are noticed. But men and women are noticed in different ways. She points out that women are judged based on whether or not they choose to use Miss, Mrs, or Ms. or choose to take their husband's last name. Each tells something about the way they are addressed. With keeping their last name people see the woman as independent and not in need of a male for support. With taking the last name of the husband to some people they feel that the woman can't support herself. By support I don't mean by financially, but as a person. 

Tannen sort of gives a man's point of view in the essay but not that well. As men she tells that we only notice a women for how they dress. Well looks can be deceiving to some, I feel. But yet men do judge women for how they look. We see a women wearing skimpy clothes and the first thought that pops up is she is a, excuse my word chose, a slut. Before we even get to know her she is "marked". Just like Tannen says in her essay that women are "marked".

I agree with what Tannen has to say. She uses details and facts to prove her point that women are "marked". Since I'm male I have judged a female on the way she looks because of how she chooses to dress. But I tend to change my opinion after learning about them. At my high school I was a victim of judging all because I marked women for their looks.